Saturday, February 14, 2015

An equal love

Love is belief. Love dies when you stop believing. Those are truths. They are truths it has taken me years to understand and come to grips with. Love can be  a transient thing, here today and gone in an instant, in an instant of disbelief. We may struggle mightily with doubt, but hang on to belief, and love survives. Love lives in belief and will die in doubt. Love requires truth.Truth in your belief and truth in your actions.Love is not a process of reciprocity. Love does not require that action. It is the continuance of belief that keeps love alive.
This is true with all forms of love. Whether we love an object,an action or another person we must believe. Belief is a feeling and not substantiated by facts. If you believe it, it is. Attempting to prove belief is a fools errand. One can not validate belief ; nor love. Love is given freely, without exception or exemption. Love can not rely upon stipulated circumstances or conditions. Trust is the binding agent. Belief can not exist without trust. And trust must come from within ourselves. We are the sole trustee. And so trust is bound to belief, which nourishes love..
Misplaced trust causes a poor bond. Just as placing glue in the wrong area will cause a weak bond, failure is inevitable. But is failure the fault of the glue ? No, it is the failure in application. We need to be certain in placing our glue,our trust,our belief.
When belief fails to satisfy, so too the trust. So we can say in order to love, one must believe. The continuance of that belief depends upon our actions and the actions of those we place our trust in. A failure of either will result in lost love. The real issue lies in recognizing that loss.  The first thing we must understand is that love is a singularity.We must love without the expectation of reciprocity. If what we feel requires a return, it is not love. That action is called validation. We seek validation because we do not believe. We do not trust.
This is true in religion as well. Trust in your God and you have belief. In that belief, love lives. Should we not love each other as we love ourselves ? That is commanded by my God. And why should that be ? Because to trust in yourself is to trust in your God. In that trust lives belief, and in belief love abides. There is no room for doubt. God does not need to prove his existence. The only requirement is belief. Belief is love. Did Jesus not say, " those who believe in me shall not perish but have everlasting life ? " That is the love of God, Eternal. His love never ends and so too our lives need not end if we believe, if we love. Jesus said, I am the truth, the way and the light. The truth is in belief. The truth is borne out by your actions.
On this day, this Valentines day, these thoughts of love filled my mind. Love is not the candy hearts and pretty wrappings. Love is belief. I am very fortunate to have someone to believe in. My trust has been well placed. My wife has been the bonding agent to love and the understanding of love. It is from her that I have learned. She has allowed no doubt to enter my mind. The absence of doubt is indeed trust, and that trust nourishes our love. A mutual love, an equal love, that requires nothing more than belief. 

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