Within reason

  We are now operating in extremes. For every issue discussed the most extreme example will always be used to support your position. Take the hot button topic of abortion as an example of that. No one is advocating for a total ban on abortions. That would be the same thing as advocating for no surgical procedures being allowed. What is being said is that abortion shouldn't be an elective thing, done for  convenience. The response to that is always but what about rape, incest, and I was drunk at the time and so it was an accident. None of those scenarios create a medical emergency. Pregnancy isn't a medical emergency. Pregnancy is in fact a normal and healthy biological function of the female species. Okay, except for sea horses. Being pregnant doesn't automatically create the necessity for an abortion! 

  That is just one example, consider hiring practices as another. All this DEI hiring. Employers are being forced to hire people to satisfy that regardless if the person is actually qualified for the job. Politicians are getting in office for the same reason. Even an ex president Barack Obama is proclaiming black men should be voting for Harris because she is black and a woman. No mention of her qualifications, just race and gender. I'm guessing she is identifying as a woman and informed him of that otherwise it may be offensive. But everything has to be taken to the extreme. We have a male surgeon general parading around in a dress. Extreme, you bet it is and there are others in that administration that are way out there too. 

  No one is demanding books be banned. Many are saying certain books shouldn't be included in the library at the elementary school. Restricted access is not a ban. You don't see any adult magazines or videos available in those libraries do you? Why is that? Because that stuff is phonographic material and has nothing to do with education. But we take it to the extreme by insisting that children should be exposed to all of that as it is normal behavior. Fact is, less than 8% of the population engage in any of that behavior according to a 2022 Gallop poll. That includes the entire LGTBQ+ community. But we hear, it's unconstitutional to ban books and this must not be allowed! Meanwhile the current administration has promised to ban TicTok unless that company is sold to an approved buyer. An actual ban sanctioned by the government. Am I alone in seeing that hypocrisy. 

  Acceptance does not require adoption. I can disagree with your choices without hating you for those choices. I do not have to participate to accept you. I can simply respect your choice and look beyond that. I can love someone and still tell them they are wrong. But today we are saying love is adopting, allowing, and indeed supporting someone in everything they do without question. Love is love! Well, love isn't sex is the short answer to that one. Love isn't saying I agree with everything you do or say. Compromise isn't simply throwing your arms in the air and saying alright. 

  Remember tough love? That was right, to love someone is tough. It requires integrity as much as compassion. It's why your parents should say, no. Young children are not reasonable or rational. Those are traits that need to be taught. And you can't learn them in college, you get no degree in any of that. We are presenting unreasonable ideas to our children today. There will always be others that simply don't like you, deal with it. Covering your body with tattoos, dying your hair purple, having piercings in your face and lips, refusing to comply with certain standards and expecting employers to accept all of that is unreasonable. Expecting me to pay for your loans, unreasonable expectations. I really miss the day when "within reason" was as common as being polite. It was understood.